OK, this book is not all about fashion, but it does offer a way to be positive and stylish.
Many of
us feel like the universe often holds a far bigger vision for us than we are
capable of seeing for ourselves at any particular moment in time. As we get older, and experience life, we see
that getting ahead requires that we embrace change and understand that we need
to move toward it in a fluid way, not against it … it’s very much like
dancing.
It’s not
all about winning, or having lots of money, and or a fantastic career and
wonderful family. Having it all is more about the feeling we carry with us in
the privacy of our own hearts and minds.
In the
new book The Art of Having It All – A Woman’s Guide
to Unlimited Abundance (due out
January 31, 2015), Christy Whitman offers up a modern strategy for women who
want to “have it all”. She lays out a path forward that shows people how to feel
thankful, hopeful, and healthy all at the same time, all the time.
The ideas
she shares can not only be used to chart a course to greater abundance and
success, but to a deeper connection with yourself and an increased ability to
enjoy all that you are and all that you have created and have yet to create.
Here are some of the steps she recommends women take.
Define
Your “It” and Your “All”
The first
step is to become profoundly connected to yourself. No two women have the same life experiences,
the same perspectives, the same goals, preferences, beliefs or ideals… and for
this reason, no two women define having it all in exactly the same ways. Each and every one of us is a unique
expression of the Divine, and – despite what we may have been socialized to
believe – we don’t all want the same things.
Give
yourself permission to envision what having it all means to you in each
important area of your life. Let your
imagination expand to create a vision of all that you desire to create –
physically, emotionally, socially, financially, and spiritually. Visualize a reality in which your desires
manifest naturally and easily, and in which you experience all the joy, health,
success, abundance and fulfillment that you desire.
Define
the things that truly bring you happiness. Identify the conditions or
experiences you have always wanted to create. Design your life to be amazing
beyond your wildest
Imagination. What would it look like? How would it feel? Are you financially abundant and debt
free? Is your body a certain size or
weight? Do you feel more rewarded in
your career? Are your relationships more
intimate and satisfying?
Allow
yourself to dream about what having it all means to you. Don’t worry about how
it will happen.
“Having
it all simply means having access to all
of
yourself, in any moment you choose it, and in every
aspect of
life that is important to you.”
Create
From the Inside Out
Identify
a specific area in your life – your finances, your career, relationships with
others, for example – where you feel discontent, frustrated or unfulfilled; an
aspect of your life where you
do not
yet feel you have it all. Identify the
dominant emotion or vibration that you are emitting
in
response to it. Do you feel
resentment? Disappointment? Resignation?
Allow
yourself to feel this emotion in your body. Where is the feeling located? How
large of an area does it cover? Connect
with this emotion. Notice if it is
familiar to you. Think back to the past,
to relationships or circumstances where you experienced it? Notice the feelings in your body as you
consider this.
Acknowledge that you – and no one else – are the sole generator of
your vibration. Ask yourself if there is anything you have to give up in order
to shift your attitude. Do you need to release some old resentment? Do you have to give up being a victim? Do you have to let go of being right? Identify what you have been holding on to,
see if you can give it up, and notice what happens to how you feel as you
do. Liberate yourself. Connect with the
feeling you want. Allow it to become your new center and your new point of
attraction.
“Nothing
can happen until you start paying attention to you,
and this
means listening to your emotions rather than
trying to
resist, suppress, ignore or deny them.”
Be Open
to Receiving
Call to
mind any area of your life where you are in a state of resistance – some place
where you have a chronic complaint or where your viewpoint is one of “It
shouldn’t be like this.” Try to see if
you can allow yourself to accept it exactly as it is. Accepting a situation does not mean that you
approve of it, or that you don’t want it to change. It simply means accepting what is
at
this
moment. Give yourself permission to
think and feel about it the way that you do, without trying to minimize your
feelings or pretend to feel any differently.
Pay
closer attention to the way you feel about this situation. Allow yourself to
receive whatever information your emotions are trying to convey to you. What is the message your feelings are giving
you about you? Allow yourself to feel
the intensity of your emotions fully and completely, without describing or
labeling them. Simply be with them with
all of your attention, and feel the power of their vibration.
Embrace
them rather than resist them. And notice that they begin to dissipate and
release. From this new level of
awareness, allow yourself to connect with what you really do want to experience
in this area of your life. How do you want to feel in relation to this
situation? What is one action you could
take – be it an inner action or an outer action – to change your set point about
this issue? How can you allow in more of what you are wanting? Go for it. Bring it on. Make it happen.
“Give
yourself permission to have. Give
yourself permission to be.
Give
yourself permission to need. Give
yourself permission to let go.”
Clarity +
Alignment + Action = Manifestation
Clarity
about the exact nature of what you want builds intensity and distinguishes the
unique
vibration
of your desire. Maintaining a feeling allowing and non-resistance draws it
towards us. The combination of feeling
good, excited and content with what is, while at the same time being clear about
what more we want, that opens the door for more to come into our lives. Intending and allowing are equally important
in the manifestation equation, but every situation calls for a different degree
of each. The bigger our goal and the
clearer our intention, the more we need to allow.
When you
then add physical action into this equation, you summon the power to manifest
anything you desire. Whether you
experience this creative process as spontaneous and easy or as slow and difficult
depends on how much of a balance you are able to strike between these inner and
outer forces.
“There is
a deep place within your system
where
there is complete alignment and infinite capacity.”
You Can
Have it All
Kristy
says “By allowing yourself to swell up with that gratitude, you open up doorways
along your path. Synchronicity comes
into play and people show up in your life, that bring you to places that are
truly unimaginable to you in the present moment.”
Life
really happens. Dreams really can come true.
The Art
of Having It All – A Woman’s Guide to Unlimited Abundance
Christy
Whitman
List $14.95
Trade soft cover, 136 pages
ISBN-1- 978-0-9885855-0-8
Published by TV Guestpert Publishing
For more information, visit www.TheArtofHavingItAll.com or www.ChristyWhitman.com
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